No blame, no argument

When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look into the reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change. - Thích Nhat Hanh

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Happiness - Change your thinking

Once a group of 50 people were attending a seminar. Suddenly the speaker stopped and decided to do a group activity. He started giving each one a balloon. Each one was asked to write his/her name on it using a marker pen. Then all the balloons were collected and put in another room. Now these delegates were let in that room and asked to find the balloon which had their name written, within 5 minutes. Everyone was frantically searching for their name, colliding with each other, pushing around others and there was utter chaos.

At the end of 5 minutes no one could find their own balloon. Now each one was asked to randomly collect a balloon and give it to the person whose name was written on it. Within minutes everyone had their own balloon. The speaker began— exactly this is happening in our lives. Everyone is frantically looking for happiness all around, not knowing where it is. Our happiness lies in the happiness of other people. Give them their happiness; you will get your own happiness. And this is the purpose of human life.

Is this not what you are looking for?

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Quote Unquote .... from here & there

Folks, if you are married or going to get married, you must read them. These one liners are so funny that I could not resist collecting and consolidating them. They are not meant to offend anybody and neither are they reflection of my thinking. I hope they flex your facial, jaw and throat muscles for a while. If you don't like them, just ignore this as another blog post!

1. A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.

2. My wife and I were happy for 20 years. Then we met.

3. 'Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays and I go Fridays.

4. When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.

5. By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you will be happy. If you get a bad one, you will become a philosopher

6. A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: 'Wife wanted'. Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: 'You can have mine'

7. I had some words with my wife and she had some paragraphs with me.

8. There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage.

9. First guy (proudly): 'My wife's an angle!' Second guy: 'You're lucky, mine's still alive.'

10. Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming 1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it, 2. Whenever you're right, shut up.

11. After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.

12. You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to 13. The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once ....

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